Hello Everyone!
I know I said I would post every Sunday before 8pm... Well I don't have anything to post, because well, no one has reached out to me after lucky lady #1... I haven't forgotten about y'all. I still want to help y'all. I still want to Read You Loud and Clear. We can talk about ANYTHING! I just need you to begin the conversation. I need you to be like, "Hey, Rylac, what do you think about this?" etc. Let's give this another shot! What do you say?
Sincerely,
Rylac Y'ki
P.S. You can reach me at the following places:
- ask.fm/ReadingULoudnClear (ask.com)
- @ReadULoudnClear (Twitter)
- Rylac Y'ki (Facebook)
Friday, March 29, 2013
Sunday, March 3, 2013
Reaching Out
Announcement:
This is the first question that has been asked. YAY! *audience cheers* I would like to begin this post by thanking the person who decided to reach out to me with their worries/problems, etc. It takes alot of courage to step out of your comfort zone and let someone into your mind as you explain to them what's stressing you out. I commend you for your braveness. High five to you! *raises hand to give you a high-five* Now to the question at hand...
Message:
I want to go into detail about the whole situation but it is entirely too much to type maybe. But basically this guy lied to me, we were talking and I really liked him. He liked me too, as far as I know. But he LIED to me. At the end of the day, he's with his girlfriend now whom he can't let go...and me? I'm just here trying to get over him. I have too many contradicting thoughts to function. Do I go after what I really want? No. I am NOT a home wrecker. Should I be mad at him? Talk to him again? Cut him off completely? Text him? What about the next time I run into him, how do I react? Do I react? I don't know, I think for the most part I see he's not right for me. If he could do me so wrong then he obviously doesn't deserve me right? He's the first guy I've liked in a while which makes it even worse. I'm a bit stuck, help? Why couldn't he have just stayed? huh.
-Young & Naive
Response:
I want to begin by saying this, if you want to go into further detail do so. It will not bother me at all. The more detail given the more insight I will be able to get. No big D. (D= deal). Now your issue. I believe that if he lied to you about some things and went back to a girlfriend that we can assume he never left in the first place, you should let him go. As you said, "he's with his girlfriend now whom he can't let go..." leaving you upset, frustrated, hurt, and confused. He is not causing you happiness. If there's something in your life separating from your happiness then you should get rid of it and never look at it again. With this being said, homeboy is NOT worth your time, tears, or thoughts. While you're thinking of him, I doubt he's thinking about you. I'm not trying to be rude, but I'm also not here to spare your feelings. I'm here to simply help you out with your dilemma, which means I have to tell the TRUTH. To answer your questions. Do you go after what you really want? Yes, always go after what you want. A better question would be do you go after something/someone that doesn't want you? The answer then would be, no. There's no point in chasing after something that will not benefit you in the end. I believe you when you say you're not a home wrecker. You're not wrecking his "home" anyway. He did that on his own when he got involved with you. You were in the dark about his other relationship, meaning he's the dirty one. Not you. Should you be mad at him? Yes, but only for like a day or so. Being mad at someone for too long will cause bitterness and we don't want you to be bitter. After you're finished being mad at him, forgive him, but never forget. You don't even have to tell him that you forgive him, because then he'll take that as an invitation to come back and forth in and out of your life and that's not what you want or need. Talk to him again? No, what's the point in talking to him? He should be the last of your concerns at the moment. He doesn't deserve the privilege to talk to you ever again. Cut him off completely? Yes! You know this, I know this, and whoever else that reads this will know this. Text him? No. You should be deleting his phone number not texting him. All communication has got to go. How do you react the next time you run into him? Simply smile, wave, or say hey (or all three) and keep it moving. Don't stop and hold a conversation, don't roll your eyes and be rude either. Just be you and go on about your day. Don't let him steer the way you act or make you step out of character. Don't let him have that power over you. Saying hey or whatever shows that you don't hold grudges and keeping it moving also shows that you are no longer messed up about him. Best combination ever. And yes you're right... He DOESN'T deserve you. I understand that he's the first guy you've liked in a while. You just have to take the experiences you had with him and the memories that y'all made and store them in the "lessons learned" part of your brain. Everything happens for a reason. Maybe this was a way for you to gain insight on something bigger than you and this guy's relationship. You might not know what it is now, but that doesn't mean the reason doesn't exist. Don't go looking for the reason either. It'll come to you when you need it most. He couldn't have just stayed, because it wasn't meant for him to be there in the first place. And if he would have stayed, you'd still be left in the dark of the type of person he really is. Now it's time for you to put on your big girl pants, pick up your lip, re-position your broken pieces, and wipe the tears from your face. The quicker you do that, the quicker you can get back to yourself and further away from homeboys nonsense. I hope this helps you as much as I'm wanting it to. I have been in a similar situation. I can relate to the feelings you're having right at this moment. I've been there before. I believe everyone has at least once in their lives. Both male and female. Have a great night. If you need to respond to me you can reach me on ask.com (http://ask.fm/ReadingULoudnClear) like you did the first time, facebook at (http://www.facebook.com/rylac.yki), or twitter at (https://twitter.com/ReadULoudnClear).
It's time for you to get back to YOU! Goodnight.
Reading You Loud and Clear
- Rylac Y'ki
This is the first question that has been asked. YAY! *audience cheers* I would like to begin this post by thanking the person who decided to reach out to me with their worries/problems, etc. It takes alot of courage to step out of your comfort zone and let someone into your mind as you explain to them what's stressing you out. I commend you for your braveness. High five to you! *raises hand to give you a high-five* Now to the question at hand...
Message:
I want to go into detail about the whole situation but it is entirely too much to type maybe. But basically this guy lied to me, we were talking and I really liked him. He liked me too, as far as I know. But he LIED to me. At the end of the day, he's with his girlfriend now whom he can't let go...and me? I'm just here trying to get over him. I have too many contradicting thoughts to function. Do I go after what I really want? No. I am NOT a home wrecker. Should I be mad at him? Talk to him again? Cut him off completely? Text him? What about the next time I run into him, how do I react? Do I react? I don't know, I think for the most part I see he's not right for me. If he could do me so wrong then he obviously doesn't deserve me right? He's the first guy I've liked in a while which makes it even worse. I'm a bit stuck, help? Why couldn't he have just stayed? huh.
-Young & Naive
Response:
I want to begin by saying this, if you want to go into further detail do so. It will not bother me at all. The more detail given the more insight I will be able to get. No big D. (D= deal). Now your issue. I believe that if he lied to you about some things and went back to a girlfriend that we can assume he never left in the first place, you should let him go. As you said, "he's with his girlfriend now whom he can't let go..." leaving you upset, frustrated, hurt, and confused. He is not causing you happiness. If there's something in your life separating from your happiness then you should get rid of it and never look at it again. With this being said, homeboy is NOT worth your time, tears, or thoughts. While you're thinking of him, I doubt he's thinking about you. I'm not trying to be rude, but I'm also not here to spare your feelings. I'm here to simply help you out with your dilemma, which means I have to tell the TRUTH. To answer your questions. Do you go after what you really want? Yes, always go after what you want. A better question would be do you go after something/someone that doesn't want you? The answer then would be, no. There's no point in chasing after something that will not benefit you in the end. I believe you when you say you're not a home wrecker. You're not wrecking his "home" anyway. He did that on his own when he got involved with you. You were in the dark about his other relationship, meaning he's the dirty one. Not you. Should you be mad at him? Yes, but only for like a day or so. Being mad at someone for too long will cause bitterness and we don't want you to be bitter. After you're finished being mad at him, forgive him, but never forget. You don't even have to tell him that you forgive him, because then he'll take that as an invitation to come back and forth in and out of your life and that's not what you want or need. Talk to him again? No, what's the point in talking to him? He should be the last of your concerns at the moment. He doesn't deserve the privilege to talk to you ever again. Cut him off completely? Yes! You know this, I know this, and whoever else that reads this will know this. Text him? No. You should be deleting his phone number not texting him. All communication has got to go. How do you react the next time you run into him? Simply smile, wave, or say hey (or all three) and keep it moving. Don't stop and hold a conversation, don't roll your eyes and be rude either. Just be you and go on about your day. Don't let him steer the way you act or make you step out of character. Don't let him have that power over you. Saying hey or whatever shows that you don't hold grudges and keeping it moving also shows that you are no longer messed up about him. Best combination ever. And yes you're right... He DOESN'T deserve you. I understand that he's the first guy you've liked in a while. You just have to take the experiences you had with him and the memories that y'all made and store them in the "lessons learned" part of your brain. Everything happens for a reason. Maybe this was a way for you to gain insight on something bigger than you and this guy's relationship. You might not know what it is now, but that doesn't mean the reason doesn't exist. Don't go looking for the reason either. It'll come to you when you need it most. He couldn't have just stayed, because it wasn't meant for him to be there in the first place. And if he would have stayed, you'd still be left in the dark of the type of person he really is. Now it's time for you to put on your big girl pants, pick up your lip, re-position your broken pieces, and wipe the tears from your face. The quicker you do that, the quicker you can get back to yourself and further away from homeboys nonsense. I hope this helps you as much as I'm wanting it to. I have been in a similar situation. I can relate to the feelings you're having right at this moment. I've been there before. I believe everyone has at least once in their lives. Both male and female. Have a great night. If you need to respond to me you can reach me on ask.com (http://ask.fm/ReadingULoudnClear) like you did the first time, facebook at (http://www.facebook.com/rylac.yki), or twitter at (https://twitter.com/ReadULoudnClear).
It's time for you to get back to YOU! Goodnight.
Reading You Loud and Clear
- Rylac Y'ki
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